Dating Act One Scene One

Hello I'm Clo -
Today is all about dating! My dating specifically. 

Today is all about the dating journey
So shortly after I became single I joined a bunch of friends at a local hotel to grab some drinks early on a summers evening.
The usual group were there and friends of friends came along to join us at our table by the river, very picturesque but with beer and a J20 for me, which I didn't like so resorted to water as per usual! - boring I know!
And it was there that the guy sat opposite me caught my eye, not for the typical reasons a person catches your eye, but because he was happily chatting away to people, oblivious to wether anyone was watching him or not and I like that. There are too many "look at me" blokes out there, more modest men are required!

He was Good looking. But didn't dwell upon it, didn't stop to pose, or break out of conversation to make a wise crack about how great he was. He laughed out loud, asked questions and made jokes. The only thing I did notice other than his chirpy presence was whilst he was around, all except what I assume to be his best friend, were posing and frankly trying too hard to be mr 'macho man'

Unfortunately for myself and all parties involved my ex was also there that evening, trying desperately hard to make sure everyone knew how great he thought he was, which frankly didn't do him any favors!

Yet all the ladies eyes were on this handsome guy, lets use a pseudonym to make this simpler we'll use 'A' So all eyes were on A.
His smile was radiant, and his chuckle, pure brilliance. When he left with his friend 'K' my friend 'C' did the typical girl reaction;

"He is so hot!!!" *does girl Shimmy shudder*
There was no denial. A. Was. hot.

I got home the following morning to a friend request from A, I accepted and within an hour I had a little message - his open interest made me ponder!

Was it the wise crack from friend 'S' about how big my boobs were?
Much to the embarrassment of the poor waiter, who was right behinds when the home evolved! - or was it the fact I had much too much flesh on display!? (It was the UK heat wave week- so come on give me a break from the jumper!)
Or was it my lucky so tight you can't pee denim pulling shorts? Mmmm this intrigued me.

We got chatting and our chat turned into two weeks of talking about everything from rugby to sandwiches! It was easy, effortless, made me smile and I couldn't wait for the next message to drop into my box or my phone to buzz, it was exciting,the thrill of the chase, and the first time in a long time I felt like a teenage girl with a crush.

(Just read that para back- how lame! Haha yet semi adorable !)

We set up a 'drinks thing' a week after we'd started talking, but he cancelled to go celebrate a childhood friends birthday- a knock back friend 'L' did not take to lightly. 

 " He either wants you or he doesn't It's that f***ing simple." 
She plays a fine concerned friend especially after all I'd been through with the last guy I dated, she was funny, I was confused by everyone telling me shit I didn't want to here, giving me their opinions and anecdotes that had no relevance or effect.
Overall though, sod it - what have I got to loose ? I'll let him off this time. And try not to be a whining bitch!

I think all too many of us ladies will strike the potentially perfect guy off because there are bumps in the road before you've even got in the car. - a Euphemism right there if there ever was one!

Urgh some random women passenger on the Virgin London Euston train just rudely told me to move and interrupted my god damn flow. 

Where was I....?
Ah yes the date.
 
'A' Soon got round to asking me out on a date (only took him about a million years!) but this is what got me thinking - when is it too soon to go on a date, especially if you've recently come out of a relationship?
These are the points that I made both for and against going in a date two weeks after coming out of a relationship
For:
* My ex did the dirty on me and lied about it - why should I Loath in self pity feeling its the be all and end All?
*I am young free And officially single
* I genuinely like the sound of this guy and he doesn't look too bad either ;)

Against
* I don't want people to think I'm a bitch / whore.
*i don't want 'A' to feel like the date is a rebound / Plot for me to showboat him/ me to all and sundry!

Overall I came to the conclusion that all my worries and negative thoughts we're because of my ex- and what others would think.
Why should I care about how he feels or what his friends or even mine for that matter think? No one gave a second thought or regard for my feelings when he was having sex in a field with someone who has 4 children and also claims she's a lesbian. - and with that it was Sorted.

As 'L' puts it nicely 

" Would you be content dying Tomorrow knowing that you didn't make the most of your life!?, no ,well bloody live a little!" 
- Awesome. Sorted.

Despite the "he's a bad boy" "Don't go there" " not boyfriend material" text messages of 'support' I plowed through.
So we agreed to meet at the station where he would greet me off the train and true to his word he did - and was early. 

I feared we could have been those people who are great online, on the Internet but are crap face to face ! We couldn't have got on any better. Our house was on fire.

I had gone for 'I've just come from work chic" jeans, guys white shirt, belt to draw the eye to my feminine shape, rolled up sleeves just below the elbow as i am a woman and Im not a Builder, shape and take the eyes from my thighs, red block heart cut out Iron Fist heels to add length as 'A' is 6''4 My locket, favourite strawberry earrings and skinny mini dark navy jeans that make me feel like I'm on fire, in the most sexy, non harmful way!

'A' looked great. Shirt, unbuttoned just enough to spark interest, faded blue jeans, straight cut with belt and brown male loafers. Yes!
My questions were subsided, others doubts were quashed and I just didn't care. He didn't have to be there but he was and that to me in my post fragile state was fab!

If you could image the perfect date, now imagine the person being hotter than you remember, and as an added bonus doesn't try and dive out the door the second you step up to go to the ladies and that in summary was my date with 'A'. -it was great, it made me feel younger than I have down in a long time, not in an immature way, but in a 'this is fun' if a little outside the lines.
The best thing about it was we both had no rules, no grey areas so there was nothing to trip either of us up.
And by the end of the night it was confirmed I was definitely into him and he make it pretty clear he was too .
I'm now applying my new saying to everything in life-

" If you don't,you won't " 
How do you know something isn't going to go to plan if you don't even try it!?

Don't say no to things you know in the long run you'd regret not saying 'yes' to, although sometimes saying 'yes' is the wrong answer but if you don't say yes you'll never know.

These are the things a no is the answer to go with.

*drugs
*pressured sex
*alcohol pressure
* anything you do not want to do

And that is a little in site into my dating antics!
Of course I will keep the identity of all people mentioned confidential and I haven't spilt half the juicy details and ins and outs as that is supes personal! I'll keep all of you in the loop if anything develops!

That's all for today folks,
Toodle pip!
Clo :-)

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